When we – as women, as students, as peers, as friends, as upperclassmen – are asked how to prevent sexual assault, the first response should be an extremely important caveat: that no matter what you do or don’t do, no matter what you are wearing or where you are walking, how much you have to drink or what time it is, sexual assault is never your fault as a victim. It is essential to get across that there is never a possible circumstance where a victim contributes to an assault. Furthermore, it is essential for all of us to understand that although victims can do certain things to try and protect themselves, those “safety tips” have not stopped sexual assault thus far and will not stop sexual assault in the future because it is not victims who have the ability to stop sexual assault, but perpetrators. I believe that it is education and legislation that will eventually provide the change in our societal consciousness of consent and sexual assault that we so desperately need
I swear I thought I was going to get a nose bleed reading this article. And warning, this author one of the few that actually thinks it might be a good idea for women to have some sort of device to attempt to stop a rapist, so that tell you pretty much what kind of perverse mindset is flowing out there.
I cannot wrap my head around the concept that preparing to defend oneself is somehow empowering the bad behavior of the criminals so we should remain in a state of knowingly victimhood as a way to stop the bad behavior. That would be like curing diabetes by eating a daily pound of of M&Ms and dispensing of the insulin as a way to eradicate the disease from the face of the earth.
And we are in the 21st Century, what the hell happened to the Feminist movement? I thought that the original concept was to empower women to be equal to a man when the challenge came. But now what we have is a culture of purposely weaklings that make June Cleaver look like an MMA fighter packing a recoilless rifle.
Dear “Modern” women, I have bad news for you: Feminism worked (at least in its original intent.) Men no longer find a weak ass submissive whinny representation of a female attractive and for what is worth, I don’t think lesbians find them attractive either. We want a woman who will cover our backs, not ride on them. We want a woman who when the Shit Hits The Fan will say “Hon, you carry the kids, I’ll cover” and know she will mow down whomever is threatening her family because we married Mama Grizzly Bear and not dumb-fuck panda bear. We want a woman who will cry her eyes out with Steel Magnolias and Blackhawk Down (BTW Guys, bad news: we are supposed to do the same.) A woman who will pamper us for three days while we are sick and kick us out of bed at the fourth. A woman who will make us proud as hell with her triumphs at work because she fought for it hard and beat all comers.
Feminists in the 1960s demanded to be treated as partners and guess what? Men in this century are demanding a partner! But the new crop of Feminist are determined to create a bunch of mental chihuahuas that pee on themselves at an original thought and the idea of fending off for themselves.
What the f*** happened?