The senior culture writer for BuzzFeed found a graph of the effect of having a first child on income for men and women.
— Anne Helen Petersen (@annehelen) February 12, 2018
She was clearly shocked by this.
I figured that this came from the files of “No duh!” Really it’s from Denmark.
I thought the results of this study were pretty common sense. Mothers generally take off more time than fathers after a child is born. Mothers more than fathers take on the duties of caring for infants and all the little chores and duties that entails.
That time is time spent away from work and time spent away from work doesn’t pay, hence, salary goes down. As the child gets older and mom can go back to work her salary increases again from the point where she left work to take care of the child.
Two attorneys, one man and one woman start out the same at the firm. After five years the woman leaves to have a kid. She comes back to work when the child enters school. She has been out of law school for nine years but only has five years experience. The man has been working the entire time and has nine years experience, so his salary is higher.
This all seems rather common sense, at least to me.
I don’t have the outrage that others seem to have.
This graph needs to have a subtitle for women who have children:
"Women Who Do Essential Public Work For Free"#EqualPay
— Dktr Süs (@Dktr_Sus) February 12, 2018
I realized, that is because I think like a married man.
My wife takes a hit to her salary because we had kids. She’s better suited to stay home than I am to care for a newborn. My salary is also double hers, so the lost of my income has more of an impact on us. We still feel the effect of her income loss. I have to work harder and sacrifice more to make up the difference.
That is called being in a partnership. We both wanted kids. I knew what that would mean to me in terms of responsibility and disposable income.
I think this outrage comes form the feminist “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” thing.
If you don’t truly understand that getting married and having a child is a partnership, you might see that graph as the woman falling behind.
I have a kid, my salary goes down compared to a man’s, it’s not fair.
That supposes that when my wife takes time off and doesn’t collect a paycheck, she has to go barefoot eating ramen while I have steak and buy a new gun for myself. No, WE make it work.
The wife takes the financial hit and the so the husband, hers directly and his indirectly, as he has to make up the difference.
Only a narcissist who doesn’t understand what a marriage and family really means gets tied up in the competitiveness between the sexes.
Maybe this explains the divorce rate. If you are more focused on how “unfair” it is that your salary took a hit compared to your husband’s than realizing the sacrifice the both of you made, your marriage is going to go down in flames.
What I a sure of is that there is nobody worth marrying – of either gender – over at BuzzFeed.