1. It could be defensive, trying to fend off SJW attacks.

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2. Young people trying hard to be different / distinguishable from every other young person out there, at least in their own minds.

   It can be a painful period in one’s life.

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3. I’m bisexual and have been open about it since as long as I can remember being aware that sexual desire was a thing. There’s always been a tension between bisexuals and the homosexual community that we’re “faking it for attention.”

   Which, sadly, is actually an all too common occurrence, especially among women in their late teens to mid twenties. Back in the Nineties, we used to call them “L.U.G.s” since they were Lesbian Until Graduation. Then they’d meet a man, move to the suburbs, and 2.5 kids… But they’d feel all avant-garde because they french kissed another girl in their sorority once.

   It’s also not helped that Hollywood seems to think that bisexuality only comes in two varieties: the female lead who had been depicted as having exclusively heterosexual romantic interests until they fall in love with a woman and start identifying themselves as a lesbian and never show any romantic attraction to men ever again or the hot girlfriend of a male lead who’s bisexuality exists only to make it possible for him to have threesome with her and another hot girl.

   Male bisexuals do not exist in Hollywood. At all.

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   1. There’s always been a tension between bisexuals and the homosexual community that we’re “faking it for attention.”

      Apologies if I gave that impression, it isn’t what I meant at all.

      Rather, from what I observe and remember, young people often have a concept of self and self-worth that is both somewhat fragile or brittle (in terms of response to criticism from anywhere), somewhat fluid (they don’t know who they are yet), and highly susceptible to outside influence, in particular from those they consider desirable or role models.

      I don’t at all equate “faking it” with “I’ve no idea, but, doing/being *whatever this is* seems to get a good response, so it must be what I should be like.” The former is deliberate; the latter is someone trying to get through adolescence and young-adulthood.

   2. That is exactly what I am accusing these people of doing.

4. Had a niece (about 10/11 years old at the time) that went around claiming to be a lesbian. This was around the time Ellen came out, so apparently it was popular.

   All of it ended when her Mom, (my sister) explained that lesbianism is more than just “liking girls” and it involved an actual attraction to them. Not just having a girl as your best friend. Turns out there were a lot of “less than well informed” youths in her school.

   The trend of saying you were gay is cool dropped off quickly. Puberty put a quick stop to the idea that spending your life with someone of the same sex was cool for a lot of those kids.

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5. I notice that in the same time period that the number of people identifying as “bisexual” jumped ~500%, those identifying as “transgender” jumped ~800%.

   I’m honestly not sure how many are actually trans, how many are “identifying as trans” because they believe they’ll have opportunities they won’t have as their birth gender, and how many are “identifying as trans” because they’ve been told since a young age that they are trans.

   Think of a boy who as a toddler liked the color pink and showed a passing interest in his sister’s dolls, and so his parents labeled him trans when in fact he just idolized his older sister and wanted to play with her. He might grow out of it as he finds his own interests and friends, or he might be pigeonholed into “girl” things and never experience anything else, but such labels tend to stick.

   (Our younger boys all love their older sister and try to emulate her. She likes video games more than dolls, but if that weren’t the case our boys could easily be labeled “trans” in this uber-PC climate. As it is, she could just as easily be labeled “trans” because everybody knows video games are “boy” things. *headdesk*)

   Here’s a radical idea: Let’s separate social and entertainment interests from sexual interest, let folks pursue what they like without labeling or questioning, and base sexual/gender orientation solely on sexual interest/attraction.

   But I know that will never fly, because it breaks down “intersectional” barriers instead of reinforcing them; it’s far too inclusive and not divisive.

6. How many of the 57 flavors of identity are just a way of saying “basically cis-het, but in a way that’s cool and different”.

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7. I’ll just leave this here “Urban Dictionary: fauxmosexual” https://www-urbandictionary-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?amp=true&amp_gsa=1&amp_js_v=a6&term=fauxmosexual&usqp=mq331AQHKAFQArABIA%3D%3D#amp_tf=From%20%251%24s&aoh=16142769335165&csi=1&referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&ampshare=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.urbandictionary.com%2Fdefine.php%3Fterm%3Dfauxmosexual

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