New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof needs to stop beating his wife.

He wrote an OpEd on Sunday that is so ridiculous and enraging at the same time  my vision started to go fuzzy reading it.

The bottom line is that most years in the U.S., ladders kill far more Americans than Muslim terrorists do. Same with bathtubs. Ditto for stairs. And lightning.

Above all, fear spouses: Husbands are incomparably more deadly in America than jihadist terrorists.

And husbands are so deadly in part because in America they have ready access to firearms, even when they have a history of violence. In other countries, brutish husbands put wives in hospitals; in America, they put them in graves.

Yet Trump is raging about a risk from refugees that seems manageable, even as he talks about relaxing rules on another threat, guns, that is infinitely more lethal.

I’m not excusing domestic violence.  There is no excuse for domestic violence.  But the fear with terrorism is that it can happen anytime without warning.  You don’t see it coming.  There are behavioral predictors for spousal murder, like… prior abuse.

Should there be more resources to help abused spouses and children escape abusers before the abuse turns fatal?  Of course.

Is it a good idea to keep people convicted of domestic violence and those with restraining orders as prohibited persons?  Yes (California’s abuse of that, not withstanding).

But don’t paint husbands with a broad brush of potential killers worse than terrorists.  That just makes you an asshole.