There’s so much going on with kids right now. I’ve had numerous conversations at the dinner and breakfast table, with friends, when out and about, about the state of children, and what’s going on in schools.
Kids are being insane at schools. There are children who are so badly behaved that they are holding entire schools hostage because of that behavior. Be it throwing rocks at cars and breaking windshields, wrecking classrooms by tossing around desks, or biting teachers and swearing incessantly, it’s 100% out of control. I often comment that these brats could use a good beating, but of course I don’t mean it the way it comes out. Unfortunately, I’m also very strongly of the opinion that I’m right.
Teachers are no longer allowed to touch students. They have to get permission slips to hug kids or hold their hands in the hallways. Recently, a teacher got written up by HR because she walked her (IEP “low” intelligence/skill) kids to the bathroom and waited for them to take them back to class. Never mind that at least two of her students had that very accommodation in their IEPs. I know of a teacher who, in a fit of absolute desperation, took a picture of a child doing something bad and threatened to tell the parents about it. The TEACHER was written up, and had to go to a mandatory meeting with her union rep, and all that stuff. It was seen only as “threatening the child”, and not as anything positive. I kid you not. There’s a reason that teachers are leaving the classrooms en masse. At this point, our school district has unlicensed people in doing teaching, because they cannot find the staff.
The kids are not being disciplined at home. They’re never being told no. They’re never being held accountable. Parents are doing their homework for them so often that some schools are actually using programs to check the work to see if it was done at an age appropriate level. Meanwhile, the kids learn nothing. Apparently, a number of school systems have no decided that their lowest grade given will be a 50%. No zeroes anymore. So there’s no reason to finish any work that isn’t done in the classroom, and little reason to work on what’s IN the classroom. With the lack of parenting happening, kids are turning to peer groups for love and affection, and unfortunately that means in inner cities, they’re getting into gangs. It’s just nuts.
Children learn from watching and observing. Right now, what’s available on most media is extremes. We’re not seeing a lot of middle ground at all. Middle Right and middle Left are ignored in favor of the worst of the worst on both sides. That’s what we’re spoon feeding these monsters. A steady diet of bullshit.
My own kids, they got raised with the occasional spanking, with consequences for their actions, having to do chores and explain truly bad grades at school. They don’t do as well socially as other kids right now, because they’re “different.” They may not realize it, but they have more self-discipline, more self-control, more understanding of the workings of the world than many adults these days, never mind their peer groups. They don’t want to spend time with a lot of their peers, because those peers mimic the extremist views of the media (mostly Left, very occasionally Right), and my kids know that isn’t reality.
It’s wonderful that I’ve helped raise kids who know right from wrong, and who understand how to educate themselves even when the system does not. I’m really damn proud of them. Ridiculously so. But I’m also afraid for them. Will they be the future leaders of our world? I used to think so, but I’m not so sure right now. Leaders are no longer being picked for their skills. They’re picked for their ability to manipulate social media. While my kids are good at that, they’re not going to do it for bad reasons… and I think that would exclude them from the leadership roles that would be best for them and for our country.
I’ve also doomed my kids. They see all the flaws of the government, they see the stupidity of quite a lot of “we the People” and know that it’s not going to end anytime soon. I’ve doomed them to have to watch history repeat itself while their peers stare in wonder, not understanding why the Bad Things are happening. I hate that part.
I know I’m rambling today. It’s cold and I’m a little grumpy. My very smart children are being smart, and sometimes that means they’re smart-mouthed. It’s irritating, but inevitably, it also means they’ve learned lessons that will hopefully keep them safe as they go out into the world as adults.
who is worried about the state of children and education today