By Miguel.GFZ

Semi-retired like Vito Corleone before the heart attack. Consiglieri to J.Kb and AWA. I lived in a Gun Control Paradise: It sucked and got people killed. I do believe that Freedom scares the political elites.

26 thoughts on “I am back home”
  1. Damn, just damn…

    I am SO sorry to hear this.

    Just know that you and your mom are in our prayers.

  2. I wish there was something I could say that will help in this moment. There is not; but I wish there were.

    You and she remain in our thoughts and prayers.

  3. Sorry to hear this news–take all the time you need. I’ll pray for you, your Mother, and the rest of your family during this trying time.

    God bless you all.

  4. My Brother:

    I am so sorry to hear your news. I will be praying for you, your mother and your family.

    Beyond that, I can add little.

    Greg Taggart

  5. There comes a time when we lose our loved ones, and while we seldom know when it will be, it is always difficult to prepare for and to experience the loss.
    I have monitored your comments about your home life with mom there with you, and I am fully aware that when her time comes, it will be difficult for you.
    As you have in the past, continue to cherish every moment that you can still be with her, touch her and talk to her. There will always be a vacancy created by her passing. I lost my mom 12 years ago, and I still miss her. She was 87 when she passed, but she had three siblings who lived past 100, so we were not fully prepared for her death right then.
    May God give you the peace and understanding that you have done what you could have done, and it is time for her to go live with him.

  6. Miguel,

    It is of not much condolences to you and your family, but I am praying for younin this trying time. A great Hospice place for end of life car is a godsend, even if it does not seem so now.

  7. Lost my father to a heart attack and mother 9 months later, 3 years ago. My thoughts and prayers to you. It’s still raw.

  8. Morrison reminds us that “No one gets out of here alive” and times like these drive that point hard. You have taken very good care of her these last years, that is the best example of a good son there is. She knows this in her heart, and God sees it also.

    Parents take care of us when we are small and we lovingly repay them in their later years. That is the flow of life and you have done well. With a heavy heart I and many others tip our hat to you and hold you and Mom in our hearts. Hospice is a Godsend, I hope you can spend as much time with her as possible, they will make her comfortable.

    God bless you all.


  9. Praying for you and your family.

    I hope you and your wife have found some rest and regeneration before you read these words.
    Everything is all raw and scary right now. It will get better. Not perfect, but better. Take care of yourself, so you can take care of your Mother and your family.

  10. If your mom has consciousness and understands the situation,and can communicate, bring her home. Nurses will come to the house, aides will be there all day and night if needed. Yes, it could cost $150 a day for the aide to be there. Yes equipment will need to be brought into the home. She will appreciate dying at home. The smells of the house, the sound of your voice in the other room, the dog curled up beside her or the cat sleeping across her forehead will bring peace to her in the end. She knows she is loved. Knowing she is content will give you peace long after she is gone.Have a plastic mattress cover under the sheets. Have three layers of heavy cotton sheets between her and the plastic cover. Have her wear a large capacity diaper. Shop around for a funeral home now. Whatever the circumstance may be, know that you have done all you can. Peace Brother

  11. I’m sorry to hear that. I know that such things are never easy. Take all of the time you need. Make memories. Cherish the time that you have left.

  12. I am so sorry to hear that the situation has got so dire. As long as she lives in your memories and she has been memorialized here in many a post, she will never truly be gone, but always with you.

  13. I remember being infuriated at the universe when Dad told me he was going into hospice, so yeah shock seems pretty normal. I’m not sure how your Mom is doing mentally after this, but I remember a comment left at my place when Dad was going through that:

    Whatever you think you won’t say,
    Whatever you think you shouldn’t say,
    Whatever you think you can’t say
    Say it.

    Dad and I had a *lot* of talks then, and looking back from almost ten years later it’s a (small) comfort that it doesn’t feel like there was anything left unsaid.

    Good luck to your Mom and to you. This is a hard road.

  14. Losing those we love is a difficult thing. It is a sad fact of life. We all know times like these are coming, and we are never prepared for them.

    No words can change things, but if they help you and your family know they are not alone, ti can be comforting. Even if the people are just text comments on your blog, they are still people who care.

  15. My father died, in my arms, 32 years ago. I, the nurse among my brothers, went to help Mom care for him.

    I am proud, in a “Saw my duty, did my duty” sort of way, that I could/did do so.

    I say that because I see, in you, a kindred spirit.

    I take solace in my duty.

    May you be able to do so, as well.

  16. Sorry to hear about your mom. I just lost my mom to dementia a few weeks ago. Hang in there.

    (Also can you please stop blocking my original account? It’s Christmas and in the spirit of forgiveness I would appreciate it. Sorry for whatever I did to cause it).

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