Woke Leftists are the most ungrateful, awful, superficial people ever
Our Kid’s Japanese Godfather Gave Her a Kimono. Can She Wear It?
We’d never want her thinking somebody else’s culture is a costume.
My husband’s closest friend from childhood is Japanese American, and although he moved back to Japan after college, they are still very close. He’s our daughters’ godfather, and they think of him and his wife as another uncle and aunt (we’re also called “Uncle” and “Auntie” by his kids). For our daughter’s fifth birthday, they sent her a sweet gift of a box full of Japanese candies, a stuffed toy, and a kimono in her size. It’s absolutely gorgeous, but I’m hesitant to let her wear it, as much as she’s begged us to let her dress up and show it to her friends. I know how big of an issue cultural appropriation is, and I don’t want to let her think that somebody else’s culture is a costume. She has a lot of anti-racist children’s books, and books about kids from other cultures celebrating holidays and traditions, and this could be a great way for us to talk about the problem of white people appropriating other cultures and using them as costumes—but also, our friends have been asking us if she liked her kimono, and I don’t know what to tell them! I will confess: I don’t want to be thought of as another insensitive white lady who lets her kids “dress up” as stereotypes of other cultures, and that may be part of what’s holding me back from letting her wear it, so I think an outside perspective might help. What should I do—let her wear it, or talk to her about why she can’t?
Yes, for fuck’s sake. A loving family member gave it to her in kindness and generosity.
It’s only a “costume” if she wears it to play a caricature like Mickey Rooney from Breakfast at Tiffany’s.
Otherwise, it’s a lovely robe given as a gift.
This mom is shitting all over a loving gift because she’s worried what other woke moms will say. This is as ungracious and ungrateful as a person can be.
Worse, she’s so anti-racist she’s gone full circle and become racist.
“That robe is not for you because of your white skin. That robe is only for Asian people.”
Hooray, segregation.
Also, way to ingrain her daughter with self loathing, that every time she enjoys something that might be from another culture, she’s just appropriating it and that’s bad.
This is a sickness that people who are too affluent have developed to torture themselves because they have too few real struggles in life.
